In a recent study conducted at Cornell University and the
University of Wisconsin-Madison it was discovered (no
surprise here) that 80 percent of people using online dating
sites lied about their height, weight, or age. Here are a few
more things men tend to lie about when online.
Oh? You're about to go out with a good-looking CEO of a
booming start-up? Don't be surprised if that means he has a
great idea for an app and is working out of his parents'
garage. Most men have a tendency to inflate their titles or
responsibilities in order to impress women. It's not a great
idea to ask about his salary, but a safe bet is to ask about his
title and how large a company he works for. CEO is very
impressive, but not if the company is him and his dog.
Just because a man is on a dating site does not mean he's
looking for a long-term relationship. In fact, if you're on
Tinder, you should assume that the guy is trying to get laid
and be pleasantly surprised when it turns out he wants to
date you. Aside from certain apps like Heavenly Sinful,
where you're explicitly asked to say whether you want to
hook up or date, the guy's intention is often unknown.
On average, guys will say they are two inches taller than they
actually are, and will assume you're not going to bring a tape
measure to the first date. If you're curious, you can wait until
his wallet's open while paying for (at least his share) of the
bill and say, "Oh! Let me see the photo on your driver's
license. Mine is horrible." There, as clear as day, is his height
(no one cares enough to lie to the DMV).
Men (well, everyone) will post photos of themselves from
when they are looking their physical best. So if you show up
on date number one and the guy is looking twenty pounds
overweight, don't be shocked. If you're lucky it may go the
other way; he may have just recovered from breaking up
with his long-term girlfriend and lost the gut men tend to
accrue when they no longer feel they need to impress their
partner. Now that he's single he wants to look great. But the
pessimist in me leans toward warning you that he may be a
bit heavier than you imagined.
He may say he loves to travel but that doesn't guarantee he's
ever left the United States. He may say he knows a lot about
wine but that might just mean he knows that he likes Pinot
Noir. Don't assume anything based on the guy's stated
hobbies or interests; just like his job description it is likely
inflated and made to sound more sophisticated than it
His Relationship Status
I hate to say it, but even if a guy makes himself available on
a dating site it doesn't necessarily mean he's there to
seriously date. Single can mean anything from "haven't had a
girlfriend in five years and looking for sex" to "newly
divorced and sad." There are men who are going through a
break-up (but it's not quite over with their gf) or are in an
open relationship and they are on these sites because it
seems innocent enough, but they are not emotionally
available to be with you.
One of the most common lies on dating profiles is a man
fibbing about his age. More often than not he's likely older
than he is. If you're in your early twenties and a man says he's
29 there's a chance he might actually be a 35 year-old who
knows you would never date someone more than ten years
your senior. If that's your thing though, then search for men
in that age range... but hope they're not in their 40s.