"I've learned that when your wife vents about work/friends/
life, don't offer up solutions to her problems, just listen and
say 'That sucks, I'm sorry, I understand."
"Having serious conversations while drunk doesn't help."
"While it's great to make her a dinner, also then cleaning up
and doing the dishes makes up for any shortcomings."
ON THE LITTLE THINGS
"Even if your wife looks a little sexier in high heels
sometimes your life will be better at the end of the night if
she wears flats instead. Or split the difference and suggest
"One thing I've learned from being married is the importance
of a one-minute hug with your wife everyday. After one
minute of hugging everything doesn't seem so bad."
"My wife loves to play softball. I'm okay at best, so I don't
play much anymore. I choose to attend all her games when
I'm home because I know how much it means to her to just
have me be there. Admittingly, I could easily fill that time
with 1000 other things, but none of those things will better
our relationship as much as me being present at her games."
"Never re-arrange the living room furniture while the wife is
out. I asked a buddy for interior design tips and we re-
arranged the first floor of my tiny house. When the wife came
home, she freaked out because 1) she hated what we did and
2) because she wasn't a part of the process. Always make the
woman a part of the process!"
"Always use massage oil when she asks you for a massage.
It's more fun for you and it's more likely things could go
"Making sure that in-between the sheets I'm not necessarily
the first or only person well...finishing."
"The quality of sex ebbs and flows..there is no getting
around it. It won't remain hot, hot, hot all the time but, that's
ok because when it is mind-blowing (like in the early parts of
your relationship) it blows the doors off anything before and
a new bar is set."
"Allow your partner to be weird. I meditate in the morning,
she reads crime news before bed, I love digging into
financial reports on Friday night, she loves HGTV. I sit in
silence in hotel rooms without TV or music, she loves
random dance parties by herself. Lots of weird going on
"She will never be the exact same girl you married and that is
cool because she could get more awesome and sexy as she
ages (which is what happened to me)."